I was going to make a list tonight of romantic couples in literature that I’ve had strong emotional reactions to – not just “oh, okay, I’m good with that,” but “oh my gosh I love you guys so so much.” It’s Valentine’s, after all, and if there’s any time to have those sorts of discussions, it’s probably now.
But then I started making the list. And got stuck almost immediately. I could make a list of times I mentally shrieked “no no stop it do not want” easy, I could make a list of times I went “really guys? Are we doing this now?” easy, I could make a list of times I went “oh, okay, I’m good with that” pretty easily. I don’t know why it is, but I have an easier time attaching to romantic couples in visual mediums, I think. I also just don’t have an easy time attaching to romantic couples, period (this is a ridiculous statement, because I offer so many !!! about the romantic couples I do get attached to, but just know that the ones I talk about [a lot] are comparatively fewer when you consider the overall number of couples I’ve witnessed at any point – I can watch entire shows or movies without having romantic feelings about anyone, or only really having “oh, okay, I’m good with that” feelings. Those just aren’t the ones I discuss).
This could be because some of my favorite books, while featuring romance, are mostly about friendship.
- The Perks of Being a Wallflower, definitely: while Charlie likes Sam, it’s not really the main point of the story, and while I do and always have kind of shipped Alice/Mary Elizabeth, it’s definitely not the main point and really more of a peripheral thought than an all-consuming need. It’s mostly about these guys all being friends and what that spells out.
- How I Paid for College, well, everyone’s sort of having sexy thoughts about everyone, but mostly the point of the story is their relationships not entirely in a romantic sense? Like that’s mostly what I’ve taken away from it.
- Special Topics in Calamity Physics, wherein yes, there is a weird vampire-family vibe amongst the Bluebloods actually, and there is that whole mess between Blue and Charles, and let’s not even talk about the Hannah dynamics, but it’s actually mostly a crazy noir murder mystery wrapped in a story about questionable friendships.
Some of the books from my childhood featured romance, and I reacted emotionally to it, but mostly because I was busy reacting emotionally to everything in the story.
- Little Women and its sequels, wherein yeah, I probably shipped Jo/Teddy as a kid (I know I didn’t like that he ended up with Amy) but it was never a devastating thing; I reacted super-emotionally to happenings between Meg and John Brooke and between Jo and Professor Bhaer (I just feel weird using his first name) but not necessarily from a purely romantic-reaction standpoint.
- Anne of Green Gables and its sequels, wherein yeah, I was comfortable with Anne/Gilbert, but it was never an all-consuming “oh my gosh I love you guys so so much.”
I’ve read plenty of other books with romance and been okay with it. Sometimes I read books with romance and even go “I hope this works out for you.” But it’s rarely much more than that, and whether this is because I just haven’t read those books that give me those feelings or because I just don’t often feel inclined to have them this strongly with books, this just seems to be the case.
(I’ve basically never had a proper emotional reaction to a romance in even an adaptation of a “great romance,” case in point.)
So I guess I’m just going to be spending the rest of my Valentine’s Day listening to the Light in the Piazza album, because it is the most romantic album I can think of (and also I miss back when I felt comfortable having a crush on Matthew Morrison because he was singing in Italian) and because it’s beautiful. (I considered a “most romantic musicals in my opinion” list too, but a lot of my favorite musicals, while featuring romance, are somewhat messed up, so it would be a pretty short list too.)
(Oh, and in case you were wondering, the couples on my list were, once I stopped thinking about books from the 1800s that I read in childhood: everyone I also put on a Valentine on Tuesday [though I tend to have fewer romance feelings regarding Dany and Doreah in the books, honestly, and this is mostly because Doreah dies earlier so there’s less time for coy glances; this is also because in the books, you don’t get to see the amazing reaction faces Doreah makes in regards to people reacting to Dany] and also Tonks/Lupin, and that somewhat because my friend and I surprise-called it approximately a book in advance for no real reason and it came true.)
–your fangirl heroine.